Here is what I want to say to Christians for whom the fact that “transgender people are clearly happier and healthier and more fully alive when they are allowed to be transgender” is not a good enough reason to accept transgender people into their homes, workplaces, schools, and bathrooms:
Since Jesus had no human biological father, and since God, his heavenly Father, lacks a body, then Jesus was a man who likely had no Y chromosome. Would this not make Jesus more like a transgender person than a cis-gender one? We could grant Jesus a Y chromosome, but then we would have to assign his virgin mother Mary one as well. Either way, the miracle of sex-less conception suggests that Jesus can qualify as a “real man” only if Mary qualifies as something less than a “real woman.” (And I hope you can tell I that I am using quotation marks in order to signal extreme sarcasm).
The Christian case against transgender people typically trumpets the single line from Genesis in which God presumably created human beings “male and female” as evidence that God intends for each individual to be either male or female. In doing so, these Christians display more than just a disregard for both semantics and logic. They twist the word of God in the shape of their own preconceptions. They do not think to ask, “how do we know what makes a male a male and a female a female?” They instead assume that God defines masculinity and femininity in the same way they do.
Christians who malign transgender persons also frequently deify the bodies (or perhaps I should say society’s interpretation of the bodies) we receive at birth. According to this view, if one was born a boy, then one has to die a man. Besides turning natural law into a cliche (so babies with cleft palettes or heart defects ought not undergo corrective surgery?), this theory ends up unwittingly celebrating the very queerness it seeks to contain. If we take this view seriously, then we would have to also say that God naturally creates many human beings (about 1 in 2000) whose bodies do not fulfill our socially constructed definitions of man and woman.
Christians who oppose transgender equality also sell God short. They seem to assume that God’s imagination and creativity is no bigger than their own. In so doing, they miss the best part of the Divine story. God is one who makes virgins conceive, declares the meek the inheritors of the land, and, most importantly, brings dry bones back to life. Defying human expectations is sort of God’s thing.
To those who believe that God loves transgender people by asking them to go away, I ask a final question: what in your life has lead you to believe that love, which God epitomizes perfectly, means wanting anything but happiness, in every sense of the word, for other people?